It’s Friday. There is anger and confusion. An unnatural darkness covers everything. Those who know each other best, who should be the closest, are lost, uncertain, broken, and defeated. And the very scent of death lingers in the air.
Have you ever thought about what went through Jesus’ disciples minds on the Friday of the crucifixion? They’d been with Jesus through years of good times. They’d seen him teach, perform miracles, heal the sick, and care for the poor, the oppressed, and the rejected. At one time, they were even willing to die for him. But then things went bad. And just as quickly as they once so convincingly stood by him, they now doubted him, fled from him, denied him, and even watched him die. But God was still there. And Easter Sunday was coming.
Every couple walks through their own “Fridays,” when it seems things couldn't get any worse, that any hope of...well...hope, seems unlikely. The joy you once experienced seems distant and an unnatural darkness has crept into your relationship. I don’t know what your Friday is. It might be a new couple’s first major disagreement. “Where is the man I married?” It might be deception. “Did she really believe I would never find out about her secret credit cards?” It might be the loss of a job. “He feels so worthless, and I don’t know how to help him.” It might be of a physical nature. “The disease is progressive and she won’t get better.” Whether it is a spouse’s really bad choices, mismanaged stress, financial difficulty, family problems, or whatever else, all couples encounter fearful Fridays.
But God is there. He is always there. And there is a “Sunday” coming that brings the hope of new life, reconciliation, and renewal. Jesus’ disciples couldn’t see it on Friday, and more often than not a couple in the middle of a crisis can’t see it either. But trust God and know that Sunday is coming.
In 1 Corinthians 15:3-4, Paul says:
For what I received I passed on to you as of first importance: that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day according to the Scriptures.
The most important part of our faith is knowing; knowing that resurrection Sunday is coming. And in knowing we have “Christ in us, the hope of glory” (Colossians 1:27). The most important part of our marriage is knowing; knowing that Fridays come, but if we hold on to Him who gives us our hope, if we live in love, forgiveness, grace, and reconciliation, then our Sundays are coming too.
I don’t know what Fridays you’ve already lived through, what Friday you might be experiencing now, or what Fridays lie ahead, but please don’t give up on your mate. Please don’t forget God is always with us. Please don’t lose hope. Hold on to Christ, and hold on to your mate, because Easter Sunday is coming.
If you are in the Middle Tennessee area, I will be presenting a seminar based on The Marriage-Friendly Church at the Caring Connections Conference, Friday, May 10, 2013 from 10:15 to 11:30 a.m. Go to agapenashville.org for more info and to register.
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