All relationships take work, but I am a strong believer in having a positive perspective about marriage. Please understand that a positive perspective is not a naïve way of thinking that ignores or minimizes the (sometimes) harsh reality of living in a fallen world; but it is a perspective that seeks the best in each other and elevates the holy covenant relationship above the selfish drives of the individual.
When we see marriage as “one flesh” (being immanently and intimately connected to your spouse) and our mates as “helpers” (not as subordinates, but as the one who completes us), then I believe we truly are given glimpses of heaven through the marriage covenant. “A glimpse of heaven” is not the selfish idea of “I’ll always get my way” or “It’s all about making me happy.” It is about being intentional about what I say, what I do, and what I let fill my heart and mind. It is seeking a lasting joy rather than a fleeting happiness. It is finding trust, stability, honesty, and integrity that are evidenced by each spouse’s actions. It is about freely giving and receiving forgiveness. It is understanding that love is an ongoing, mate-centered action, not just an emotional response to the circumstances of the moment.
When those moments come—those glimpses of heaven—we know it. Even if our lives are otherwise surrounded by chaos, with our mates we clearly see and feel that “something greater” that brings real peace and joy. We recognize what it is to truly love and be loved, to be a part of something that is more than what we are alone. It is in those moments that we are valued for who we truly are as a child of God, that we find joy in sharing with and serving someone else, and we see the beauty of God emanating from ourselves and reflected back in our mates.
What can you do today to give your spouse “a little glimpse of heaven”?
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