Something interesting happens at the YMCA for the first couple of weeks of January every year. Every year in January, a whole bunch of new faces show up at the Y; people who’ve made their new year’s resolution to lose weight, or get fit, or whatever. These folks come in gung ho, ready to change their lives for the better.
And then, it gets to about this time in January. Mid-way through the month, the majority of those new faces are gone. The determination has waned, the sacrifice necessary for change has proved too painful, or too inconvenient, or too costly. So, they quit. They fizzle out.
Many promise themselves they will start up again soon. They may even show up for an hour every couple of weeks, and then every month, and then every three months, and then…nothing. For whatever reason, the end result that they dreamed of obtaining is no longer worth the journey it will take to get there.
Did you and your spouse make resolutions together for your marriage for the new year (and together is the key word here!)? Did you decide on things that you can do to bring you closer to each other as you draw nearer to God? Did you talk about what your joint ministry and mission will be for 2017? Did you talk about what you need to do as a couple to bring hope and encouragement to each other, to make each other feel safe, to bless each other’s lives, and to center your marriage in Christ? If not, start those conversations now.
If you have started doing these things, be on your guard against fizzling out. There will always be excuses to not do something.
“There’s not enough time.”
“I’m too tired.”
“Is my spouse really noticing anyway?”
“I’m not really seeing any benefit in doing this.”
“It’s just a little break. I'm sure I'll get back to it soon.”
The devil will provide ample excuses to quit. Don’t let him draw you away from your resolve to use your marriage to bless each other and to work together in the Kingdom of God. We all get tired. We all ask questions. We all have set backs. And from time to time, we all want to quit. But when those times come, fight through the fizzle.
You might not always be able to see it in the moment, but the end result is worth the cost of the journey.