$1.5
billion dollars. That’s a lot of money, and there is as much chance as
not that someone will be very, very rich after tonight’s Powerball
drawing. It’s the largest Jackpot in history. Even if 1000 people
had the winning numbers and had to split the pot, they’d still each be instant
millionaires.
So, what
would becoming an instant billionaire mean for your marriage? Would it
take away debt? Would it allow you to live out your dreams? Would
it bring you and your spouse closer together?
While it
might be fun for you and your mate to pretend how a winning ticket would change
your life, the reality is money won’t change a thing. “Of course it
will,” you might be tempted to say. But, the reality is it won’t, and
here’s why. You see, money is a tool. Nothing more, nothing
less. In-and-of-itself, money is neither moral nor immoral. It
simply is. Like everything else, it can be used properly and bring a
husband and wife closer together and closer to God, or it can be used foolishly
and drive a wedge between spouses while becoming an idol that replaces
God. Money is also a magnifier. It takes the impulses and
tendencies you already have and makes them obvious. If you are greedy,
money will make you more so. If you obsess over control, money will reveal
that. If you are irresponsible, it will be reflected in how you use your
finances. If you are hateful, you will try to bully and manipulate people
through money. If you do not find joy and contentment in your marriage
without money, you will not find it with money. Money might temporarily
“hide the symptoms” and mask or suppress certain issues, but problems that
existed before you have money will resurface after you have money, and often in
worse ways.
But if you
give generously without money, you will give generously with money. If
you use money to bless others now, you will continue to look outside
yourselves. If you recognize money is an indicator of priorities in the
marriage (remember, our resources always flow to our priorities), you will be
even more keenly aware of it when there is more money. If you are already
using your marriage powerfully for the Kingdom of God now, money will only give
you other avenues to continue to do so. Money is a mirror into what is
already in your heart, and it will be reflected into your marriage.
Before you
cash in that winning Powerball ticket, take an honest assessment. What
does the way you spend your money now say about your relationship with your
spouse? About your relationship with God? About your spiritual life together
as a couple? Remember, money is always a spiritual matter, and your
answers will have both immediate and ongoing consequences for your marriage
relationship.