I have a handicap. It’s not obvious, and it’s certainly nothing for
which I’m going to get a special license plate, a placard on my rearview mirror,
or a closer parking spot. In many ways,
it doesn’t drastically affect my daily life.
And sometimes, I even forget about it.
So what’s wrong with me? Well, today,
February 18, 2014 marks four years since I lost my senses of smell and taste due to a
traumatic head injury.
I know that not being able to smell or taste
is drastically different than not being able to see, or hear, or walk. And, I know I am blessed to still be
alive. (In the past four years, I’ve
seen many reports of others who suffered similar injuries and didn’t make it.) I don’t ever want to compare my situation to
those kinds of losses. But my handicap
still affects my life in deep ways.
The most profound effect losing my smell
and taste had is that it makes me more keenly aware of what I used to take for
granted. I desperately miss the smell of
my wife; her lotion, the way her hair smells right after she washes it. I miss the smell of clean sheets or fresh
laundry. I miss the smells and tastes of
the meals that Lisa so lovingly prepares for our family. I can't share an ice cream cone with my son and know how good it is. It saddens me to think that I won’t be able
to smell my daughters on their wedding day, or taste the wedding cake.
Believe it or not, I’m not saying this to
make you feel sorry for me. I know I am
blessed beyond anything I could ask or imagine.
I’m saying this to remind you to not take the little things for
granted. God has blessed us with wonderful
ways to sense and interact with our mates.
Everything—sight, hearing, smell, taste, and touch—helps us to better
connect with our spouses. Through shared sensory experiences, couples can build intimacy, elevate communication, provide
comfort, and find greater joy in marriage.
So, let her know she looks beautiful to
you. When he comes in
stinking from a long day, let him know how much you appreciate his hard work for your
family. Make sure she hears your love in
words that affirm her to her very core.
Thank him for being “the grill-master” as you savor every bite. Thank God when you gently stroke her hair, or
she holds you close, or you share loving touches together.
Let your senses awaken an appreciation of
your mate you haven’t considered before. Please, don’t take it for granted.
I would give anything to smell my wife again.
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