It’s Wednesday. The teachers of
the Law and the Pharisees have relentlessly tried to discredit Jesus. They look for any misstep, any careless word
that they can use against him. Time and time again Jesus confounds them,
turning their own scenarios, their own logic back on them—but always looking to
the heart of God to do so, always looking for ways to give others worth and
value as sons and daughters of God.
But now, it was time to do more than escape their traps. Now it was
time to engage them head on. As Jesus spoke to the crowd, within the
full hearing
of those jealous critics who sought to destroy him, he didn’t pull any
punches as
he called them out. He called the teachers
of the Law and the Pharisees hypocrites, false teachers, wicked men who
put on
a good show of righteousness. He noted
how they only cared for themselves and not for others who were also made
in the
image of God. He was disgusted by how
they pursued being legalistically right, but knew nothing of true,
God-honoring
righteousness. He called them “a brood
of vipers,” deadly and poisonous.
Make no mistake, though. Jesus
didn’t call out the teachers of the Law and the Pharisees as some sort of “feel
good” revenge. He wasn’t reducing himself
to the same level of pettiness that they exuded, or trying to publicly
humiliate them just because they had tried so many times to do the same to him. He called them out because he wanted them to
change; to become God’s emissaries of hope and healing and community for God’s
people. Jesus was staking out the red
flags to try and get them to turn from the path they were on and turn to where God
was calling them.
Sometimes, in our marriages, we need someone who loves us enough to call us
out. We need someone to plant the red
flags, to tell us the truth, even if it is painful.
- If you continue down this path, you will bankrupt your family.
- You’re letting your extracurricular activities take too much time away from your marriage.
- You were too flirty with that other woman.
- You’re giving that other man the emotional investment you should only be giving to your husband.
- You’re letting your children rule the family.
- Your selfishness is driving your wife away.
- The way you are talking to your husband is humiliating him.
I don’t know what your situation
might be, but typically, when others love us enough to call us out, the
reaction is denial, justification, argument, or whatever else it takes to
preserve the status quo. Why? Because change is often painful, even if it
will lead to something better later. But
without change, the relationship will suffer, and the marriage will continue
down a path of self-destruction.
Don’t be stubborn, stuck, and dead-set on doing it your way no matter
what. Heed the warning, endure the pain, and save the marriage. You are only “a brood of vipers” as long as
you ignore the red flags and choose to continue to be “a brood of vipers.”
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